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Today I had lunch with two girlfriends- one my age then one who is already at my university. And I will be honest. She kinda has us anxious. Now it isn't her fault, it is just the nature of the beast but is all about one main issue. Making friends. You see, she says it is hard to make friends if you don't rush but I wasn't really planning on it due to expenses. Anyway. I figured I had a network of wise women that have been here before and it is worth a shot to ask. PLEASE HELP ME!
Were you in a sorority? Was it the best way for you to make friends? Will I only have cats if I don't rush? I don't even like cats!
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That shirt is fantastic and wonderful and beautiful and I'm so glad our feelings about Lebron are the same. :) We can officially be friends now. haha
I just finished all four years of college without rushing and I don't think its necessary! In fact many girls I knew were overwhelmed by being in a sorority because of drama, commitments, etc. I made most of my friends at my part time and summer jobs as well as a lot of my classes.
First, I LOVE the shirt...just thought I would say :) Second, don't be scared! There are many different ways to make new friends at university! Its all about getting involved in clubs, organizations, teams, and so on! Whatever you major in should have some type of group or greek organization to take up with which is great because you're with like minded students. But, if you want to join a soror I say...GO FOR IT! Whatever makes you comfortable. College is all about finding out your likes, dislikes, and what truly interests you. So take your time and figure out your niche! I wish you the best four years...5 1/2 in my case...lol! Have FUN :)
Cam
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Coming from someone what was in a sorority (and was very active and is STILL a very active alumnae), I will say it was the best decision I ever made. I loved my time in college. I love the people I met because of it. It changed me life.
That being said, the idea that you won't make friends if you don't rush is silly. I've got plenty of friends in my sorority, in other Greek chapters, friends who aren't Greek at all.... the important thing is to get involved with something! It doesn't have to be a Greek organization!
No way you do not have to rush!! There are sooo many girls that don't. At first, you think everybody who is anybody is in a sorority, but that is TOTALLY NOT TRUE! They just happen to be the first people you will me sometimes and many people choose NOT to join, because 1. there is lots of drama. 2. it can be distracting from all your goals and what you want to do in college and 3. it can become camouflage to a person who is very independent (i hope that makes sense). for example: my cousin is in a sorority and wants to do all the study abroad things that I am doing, but can't because other social events call such as their trip to cancoon for spring break, etc. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT! don't get me wrong! you just have to weigh out what YOU want out of college and YOUR goals and then decide whether a sorority fits.
Oh, Hayley, you don't have to rush in college to have a good time! I know it seems scary, but just know that you're going to meet all kinds of people that will impact your life in unimaginable ways... I vote that you just let it happen, instead of forcing it. You'll be in classes with freshman like yourself, living in dorms with freshman (you'll meet all kinds of people that way!) and if you get involved in a church in Waco then that opens all kind of doors as well. Don't worry about making any big decisions--there is already a lot going on! Just see how your first semester goes and then go from there. Ease into college life and soon you'll find it'll be a perfect fit :)
-Sarah
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okay...coming from someone who went to a ole miss(pretty much totally greek)-RUSH! note that i didn't say PLEDGE, just rush. pay the $50, $100whatever it is registration, go through the process and meet girls along the way.
you will naturally meet girls(other potential new members) as you go from house to house/party to party during rush-most schools have rush rules so that sorority members can't really befriend you before/during the rush period.
if you find you like a certain house and get invited all the way through, you could even pledge and then just stay the first little bit before the bills come in and get to know some girls in your pledge class.
do know that being greek is NOT a necessity-most girls make friends that first year in it and then get out anyway. i think two key things are committing to be outgoing and meeting people in the first few week and getting to know the girls in your dorm, who will most likely end up being just as close of friends as a pledge sister would be.
you have nothing to worry about-you're fabulous!
good luck!
Ways to find friends in college:
1. go to dorm events. yeah everyone acts like they're lame and they don't want to go, but do it. I bet there will be others just like you there. (i was once an RA, and trust me, they appreciate you going as well)
2. join a team. be it varsity, club, or just playing frisbee on the mall, you'll find a lot of people that way.
3. start/join study groups. if you're in similar classes you might have similar interests. you'll at least have something to complain about together.
4. join, join, join. if you're religious, find a church on or off campus. clubs abound in college. just don't try too many at once, don't get yourself overwhelmed.
My school didn't even have greek life, but we were able to make friends despite it!
You don't have to pay to make friends. I knew plenty of people in sororities and hung out with them, but never rushed myself. I didn't see the point. I did however join a co-ed fraternity my last year to help me find a job after graduation.
I love your bright blonde hair! Looks great with the bold striped shirt. =)
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I am in a sorority (Gamma Phi Beta!!) right now and i love it! It is so special to have a bond with girls that are truly your sisters. Saying that you're paying for your friends is silly - you're paying for the social things, house, etc. However, don't feel like it's neccessary to rush. Some of my best friends I made because they didn't know how to use the oven in their room and I did. If you do decide to rush (which I highly recommend, even if you don't pledge a sorority!), make sure it's because you WANT to, not that you feel it's a neccesity - otherwise, you might end up disappointed. Good luck!
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